How Far Along? Twelve weeks, three days.
Maternity Clothes? We are there! The “regular” jeans do not work. I love stretchy-waist pants. I need maternity tops. Between my ridiculously huge bust expansion and my new bump, there is no regular summer tee that covers both top and bottom. Thank goodness for Gap sales–six more maternity shirts are on their way. My lovely sister-in-law is letting me borrow her maternity clothes, but I won’t get them until after she gives birth in July. Yeah, we’re going to need a few basics to get us from here to July! I am still pretty excited for all the cute, non-basics she sports. She has excellent taste, that lady.
Weight Gain? Still about 8-10 lbs. I ate a ton in the first couple weeks, then the nausea kicked in. To be perfectly honest, I was not eating enough before I got pregnant. Anxiety has a really great knack for killing my appetite. I am now hungry much more often, I am sure it’s because of the pregnancy in general, but it’s also because I am less anxious, now. Why would I become less anxious during pregnancy? There are many theories, but nobody knows. All I have to say is: thank you, God! (That’s a sincere thank you to the God I sincerely believe in.)
Stretch Marks? Oh, yes. All on the breasts. It makes me sad. There were already stretch marks from my A-D overnight expansion during middle school.
Sleep? I’m not sleeping as easily as I was sleeping during the first trimester. I keep dreaming that I’m chain smoking and realize just before I wake up that I’m pregnant. (I used to smoke–self-medicaiton for anxiety. Turned out to be ineffective but addictive. Yeah, I know. Duh!) I am still sleeping better than I was before, though!
Best Moment so Far? During the last ultrasound, about 10 days ago, Bug rubbed tiny, sealed-shut eyes with teeny tiny fists! Yes, I died of cute, a little. It’s one of the first reflexes they develop, by the way.
Movement? Yes, actually! There is sometimes a fluttering in my uterus when I lay down at night. It makes me think of butterflies. No, it’s not gas. Gas never makes me think of butterflies. And by this point in pregnancy, I know a lot about every possible kind of gas bubble. This is Bug. And it’s awesome, awe-inspiring, all-around extraordinary. I’m in love.
Gender/Sex? See here.
What I miss? I want my pretty, normal-sized bras back, and I want my chest to stop hurting. Seriously, there is so much pain some days. This H cup nonsense is for the birds. And I have no idea if my old figure will ever come back or when. Post coming soon on body issues.
- Cravings: potatoes (any variety, but especially chips and fried) but mostly cheese. Beans and rice and anything spicy are also on the list, but I eat lots of cheese every day.
- Food aversions: I can drink coffee again. I found this out the hard way, when I woke up this morning with a migraine and a Double Shot left over in the fridge from the last migraine plus two tylenol were the most pregnancy-safe solutions I could find. (Did you know that a Starbucks Double Shot, supposedly containing two shots of espresso, has only 130 mg of caffeine in them? That’s a lot, but pregnant women are allowed up to 250/300 mg per day. Just FYI. And a little prod to never give a pregnant woman with a Starbucks or Dunkin cup in her hand a single dirty look. Ever. Even if there are three shots of espresso in that cup, she is not engaging in anything her doctor wouldn’t approve.)
- Second Trimester signs: no more nausea! Baby bump!
- I already mentioned the breast issue. It bears repeating. OUCH!
What I’m looking forward to: On Thursday, we will have a “fancy ultrasound” – my gyn’s words. It’s actually the somewhat-controversial NT scan. My pregnancy apps warned me to think about this in advance, but we weren’t even asked if we wanted what is known as “first-trimester screening.” It is optional, and I had already decided to do it.
The controversy comes from the fact that the blood work I had done on Saturday, plus the ultrasound on Thursday, done by an ultrasound tech (my doctor has done all of them thus far), will give us a number that is meant to indicate the risk of our baby having Down’s Syndrome. This is controversial for many couples because of the common (and in my experience mis-) conception that a “high risk” result will lead to the termination of the pregnancy. For everyone I’ve talked to, we want to know if the risk is high so that we can prepare ourselves for parenting a special needs child. In our case, I’d need to apply for a lot of government help, and I’d really rather start that learning curve the day I give birth. Honestly, though, our risk is so low–no family history, I’m under 30–that I am looking forward to Thursday because it means more time with Bug! My mother-in-law, soon to be known as “Gram,” is coming up from Long Island to “meet” Bug. Because the fetus has to be in a certain position for the tech to get the right measurement (they are apparently measuring the ‘translucency’ of the fat on the back of the little fetus’s neck–sounds difficult to me!), this scan could take awhile. There’s an alternate babysitter lined up for the baby I care for. We are all ready and waiting to see Bug for as long as they’ll let us!
What I’ve Learned about Pregnancy: I have felt and will continue to feel my uterus expand. Maybe this should have been obvious. It was not. I was quite shocked to feel myself being stretched from the inside. I know–totally weird and kind of creepy. Also? Ouch.
Milestones: The first trimester is done! (That means our risk of a miscarriage is really low, now.) And I’m showing! Did I mention that I’m showing?