• I saw something on Facebook that SCREAMED White Privilege to me, so I have to write this post. I will leave her name out of, because let’s be real–this problem is not about the person who said this. The problem is obviously that she’s not alone. I’m sorry I can’t agree with the whole black… [Continue Reading]

    Check White Privilege About Black Breastfeeding Week
  • [Trigger warning: violence, racism, specifically lynching] ~Edit: I wrote this post in the middle of a migraine headache that ended up lasting two days. I’m pretty sure I failed to articulate why I think this memorial is important. The goal, as articulated on the website I link to below, is not simply to help us… [Continue Reading]

    How One City Is Publicly Acknowledging Racist History
  • Trigger warning: I’m about to discuss violence, including violent death, and racism. The events unfolding in Ferguson, Missouri, following the death of Michael Brown, exist within a deep and painful historical context. This fact seems lost on many White people who do not understand why there is enough pain, grief, rage, just plain emotional momentum to… [Continue Reading]

    The White Privilege To Forget History
  • I have been very quiet, as I watch and listen, while tragic events unfold with shocking frequency. I have been careful about what I read, and I want to be careful about the words that I add to the cacophony. My contribution to all of this has to do with when mental illness haunts brilliant… [Continue Reading]

    Dealing With Brilliant Lives Ended By Suicide
  • I hit a new low today. I bought a pouch of the tobacco my dad smoked (smokes? I don’t know!) and rolled my own cigarettes. I couldn’t stop thinking about smoking again, and how it was my coping mechanism in college, in the psych ward, and afterward. My first try made me really sick. I… [Continue Reading]

    A New Low
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How One City Is Publicly Acknowledging Racist History

[Trigger warning: violence, racism, specifically lynching] ~Edit: I wrote this post in the middle of a migraine headache that ended up lasting two days. I’m pretty sure I failed to articulate why I think this memorial is important. The goal, as articulated on the website I link to below, is not simply to help us […]

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The White Privilege To Forget History

Trigger warning: I’m about to discuss violence, including violent death, and racism. The events unfolding in Ferguson, Missouri, following the death of Michael Brown, exist within a deep and painful historical context. This fact seems lost on many White people who do not understand why there is enough pain, grief, rage, just plain emotional momentum to […]

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Dealing With Brilliant Lives Ended By Suicide

I have been very quiet, as I watch and listen, while tragic events unfold with shocking frequency. I have been careful about what I read, and I want to be careful about the words that I add to the cacophony. My contribution to all of this has to do with when mental illness haunts brilliant […]

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A New Low

I hit a new low today. I bought a pouch of the tobacco my dad smoked (smokes? I don’t know!) and rolled my own cigarettes. I couldn’t stop thinking about smoking again, and how it was my coping mechanism in college, in the psych ward, and afterward. My first try made me really sick. I […]

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Too Poor for Wellness (With Some Good News)

I’m feeling stuck, and it’s because of money. I saw a path other than traditional psychiatry through integrative medicine, and I wanted it to work. I’ve been working with practitioners over the phone for months. The science is fairly simple, and it involves real healing at the heart of a chemical imbalance like the one […]

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Ritual and Friendship Calm Anxiety

Last week, we didn’t just travel to San Jose for the BlogHer. We also spent time before and after the conference with a friend I have known since childhood, in a beautiful city called Santa Cruz. She lives a beautiful life filled with gorgeous rituals, often surrounding incredible food. The week taught me that this kind […]

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Proud Welfare Mom Finds Support at #BlogHer14

I didn’t expect Proud Welfare Mom to show up at the BlogHer conference. I knew that the minute I got back, I’d need to be on the phone, dealing with the IMPOSSIBLE-to-get-on-the-phone Department of Social Services, because the process of renewing our food stamps benefits wasn’t finished. I wanted to put it out of my […]

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The Loud Noise Anxiety Makes Inside My Head

A dear friend asked me, recently, if I think that I am a good listener. The answer is that I have great listening skills, but that I can’t use them, sometimes, because the noise inside my head is too loud to make listening possible. At the time she posed the question, I was being a […]