• I’m not really ready to talk about how I’ve been doing. I’m doing better–less depressed. I have a new psychiatrist. She’s awesome. That’s sheer luck, since I found her via the insurance company directory and chose her because her office is two blocks from my house. What I am happy to talk about is some fundraising… [Continue Reading]

    The Joyful Heart Foundation: Some of the work I’ve been doing.
  • {This is a response to “if my child marries yours,” a post that was shared on my Facebook feed a few times. I didn’t gush about warm feelings or leave comments about my mommy tears. I felt left out.} If my child loves yours… Another writer wrote, very recently, that she is “pretty sure that our… [Continue Reading]

    If My Child Loves Yours
  • I knew that this book was coming; it is published by Jessica Smock and Stephanie Sprenger, the same women who published HerStories, an anthology about friendship that contains an essay I wrote about the end of a friendship. I got to read this new book early, before its publication date, but until I waded into its “True… [Continue Reading]

    My Other Ex Lets Us Grieve, Finally
  • [Trigger warning: violence, racism, specifically lynching] ~Edit: I wrote this post in the middle of a migraine headache that ended up lasting two days. I’m pretty sure I failed to articulate why I think this memorial is important. The goal, as articulated on the website I link to below, is not simply to help us… [Continue Reading]

    How One City Is Publicly Acknowledging Racist History
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The Joyful Heart Foundation: Some of the work I’ve been doing.

I’m not really ready to talk about how I’ve been doing. I’m doing better–less depressed. I have a new psychiatrist. She’s awesome. That’s sheer luck, since I found her via the insurance company directory and chose her because her office is two blocks from my house. What I am happy to talk about is some fundraising […]

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If My Child Loves Yours

{This is a response to “if my child marries yours,” a post that was shared on my Facebook feed a few times. I didn’t gush about warm feelings or leave comments about my mommy tears. I felt left out.} If my child loves yours… Another writer wrote, very recently, that she is “pretty sure that our […]

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My Other Ex Lets Us Grieve, Finally

I knew that this book was coming; it is published by Jessica Smock and Stephanie Sprenger, the same women who published HerStories, an anthology about friendship that contains an essay I wrote about the end of a friendship. I got to read this new book early, before its publication date, but until I waded into its “True […]

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How One City Is Publicly Acknowledging Racist History

[Trigger warning: violence, racism, specifically lynching] ~Edit: I wrote this post in the middle of a migraine headache that ended up lasting two days. I’m pretty sure I failed to articulate why I think this memorial is important. The goal, as articulated on the website I link to below, is not simply to help us […]

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The White Privilege To Forget History

Trigger warning: I’m about to discuss violence, including violent death, and racism. The events unfolding in Ferguson, Missouri, following the death of Michael Brown, exist within a deep and painful historical context. This fact seems lost on many White people who do not understand why there is enough pain, grief, rage, just plain emotional momentum to […]

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Dealing With Brilliant Lives Ended By Suicide

I have been very quiet, as I watch and listen, while tragic events unfold with shocking frequency. I have been careful about what I read, and I want to be careful about the words that I add to the cacophony. My contribution to all of this has to do with when mental illness haunts brilliant […]

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A New Low

I hit a new low today. I bought a pouch of the tobacco my dad smoked (smokes? I don’t know!) and rolled my own cigarettes. I couldn’t stop thinking about smoking again, and how it was my coping mechanism in college, in the psych ward, and afterward. My first try made me really sick. I […]

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Too Poor for Wellness (With Some Good News)

I’m feeling stuck, and it’s because of money. I saw a path other than traditional psychiatry through integrative medicine, and I wanted it to work. I’ve been working with practitioners over the phone for months. The science is fairly simple, and it involves real healing at the heart of a chemical imbalance like the one […]